Estonian communities around the world: On the map – Lakewood Estonian House

Lakewood Estonian House


About 4,300 miles (7,000 km) separate Lakewood, New Jersey, from Tallinn, Estonia. But on Friday nights the distance is closer to zero.

Not literally, of course. No matter the day of the week, Lakewood is still located along the Atlantic seaboard in the United States while Tallinn faces the Gulf of Finland in northern Europe. Tallinn sits at 59 degrees north latitude, Lakewood at 40 degrees north. Along the longitudinals, Tallinn is at 24 degrees east and Lakewood is at 74 degrees west. In fact, thanks to the spreading of tectonic plates at the Mid-Atlantic Ridge, the two locales drift apart a few centimetres each year.

Tallinn and Lakewood on a Globe

Yet still, in a clubhouse in Lakewood a small group of Estonians and estophiles gathers every Friday night.

Predominantly, Estonian is the language spoken. However, pockets of English and an irregular Estonian/English hybrid are heard. Open-faced sandwiches, those ethnic dietary staples of buttered dark rye bread covered with ham, cucumber slices, pickled fish, dill and other suitable toppings are served for a nominal fee. Sometimes, frikadellisupp (Estonian meatball soup) is available. Many wash their meals down with that oddly Japanese-sounding but fully Estonian beer, Saku. On the television in the corner, Estonian news shows appear on the screen through the mystery of satellite beams and internet-woven fibre optic cables. If it weren’t for the dull, green paper currency used for monetary transactions, one might actually think they were in Tallinn.

This is the Lakewood Estonian House. It is a gathering place for pre-independence Estonian political refugees, their American-born offspring, recent emigrants and friends. On the grand scale, it is a place to preserve culture. On the micro scale, it is a place to chat, relax, make new friends and celebrate. With a current membership hovering just over 100, plus many other guests that support the society, the club is vibrant and finding ways to remain relevant.

The physical structure, located on a wooded lot, is a modest building constructed from concrete blocks. The memories, in turn, have been formed from equally concrete moments in time. Inside there is a kitchen, two banquet halls, a stage, multi-function rooms and, of course, a bar. Outdoor amenities include a performance area with bleachers, a sauna, a tenting area for larger events and, you guessed it, a bar. The history behind the mortar and blocks, carefully laid with knowing hands, buckets of sweat, and a shared love for the fatherland, can fill an entire book. Indeed, it did. In 2006, the Lakewood Estonian Association published “Lakewood Estonian Association – 60, History of an Ethnic Community in New Jersey”. The compendium, eloquently told from the perspective of Estonians and non-Estonians alike, begins in the early 1900s and documents the people and the place. From the earliest known arrivals to the area, to the land donated by Konstatin Lacht, to the construction of the original building in 1947 and the expanding population driven structural additions, to the many events that filled the grounds, to the families that made it possible, the book is a rare slice of history.

In addition to regular Friday night gatherings, the clubhouse hosts special events and holiday parties. Vabariigi aastapäev (the Estonian Independence Day) is celebrated with passionate speeches, cultural displays and a feast of traditional food. The Estonian flag, flying on a pole near the front door, seemingly flies a bit stronger and prouder on this day.

In May, the Lakewood Estonian School children put on a Mothers’ Day pageant to show off their new vocabulary skills. The school children sing, recite, dance and act. The parents, in turn, smile broadly. An occasional proud tear dots the faces of the children’s parents.

Children's Choir Lakewood Estonian House

Jaanipäev (Midsummer Day), a celebration conceived from a pagan past but later baptised in the name of St John, is a grand reason to sing, dance and be merry within the glow of a small bonfire. The summer solstice sun hovers late in the sky in Lakewood, but not nearly as tardily as in Tallinn.

A sports festival in August is bipolar in nature, with vigorous athletic competitions during the day followed by light debauchery after the sun goes down. A time honoured and tested tradition, the Saturday festival is consistently the most well attended event drawing Estonians from far and wide. On Sunday, the remaining crowd gathers at an Atlantic Ocean beach to rest sore muscles and nurse hangovers.

In the autumn, a Tuluõhtu (fundraising night) asks members and patrons to have a fun evening while opening their wallets for the Estonian House is sustained through benefactors and support of members.

The Christmas season is celebrated in mid-December with another performance by the school children, an appearance by jõuluvana (Santa Claus) and generous servings of blood sausage. Matching the yuletide, the mood is cheerful and the conversation expectant. The children will later sleep soundly that night.

Other special events dot the calendar in between. Through the years the clubhouse has hosted travelling dignitaries, concerts and plays. In recent history, the Estonian bands Spido and Meie Mees set up their amps and rocked the crowd, the Estonian Children’s Choir put on a concert to remember and Estonian clowns Piip and Tuut tickled the audience’s funny bones.

The Lakewood Estonian House is certainly not the only such outer-Estonian meeting place in the world. I’ve been to other clubhouses in much larger metropolises: New York, Baltimore, Toronto, Melbourne and elsewhere. They all have their appeal and come highly recommended. But Lakewood has its own unique charm associated with its particular, and maybe even peculiar, place in the Estonian-American history.

So if you’re in the area, stop by on a Friday night. Pull up a chair. Grab a sandwich and beverage of your choice. Tell a tale, or simply listen in on the various stories of things Estonia. You’ll be glad you did.

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Cover photo: Lakewood Estonian House. Photo by Siiri Lind. 

All other photos by Andres Simonson.

About the author: Andres Simonson

Andres is first generation American of Estonian descent. An enthusiastic Estophile, he is an environmental consultant holding a Bachelor's degree in Environmental Science and a Masters of City and Regional Planning, concentrating in environmental planning. He resides in Red Bank, New Jersey with his loving wife and three darling daughters.

  • Silvi Verder

    Lakewood Estonian House is always welcoming and going there feels like going to a favorite relative’s house! <3

  • Tiina Fischgrund

    Lakewood Estonian House has been host to many weddings, confirmation gatherings, christening parties, and even funeral repasts. It has always been a home away from home for Estos young and old.

  • Tj Hankins

    very well done i will gladly tell anyone as a non esto i spent a large amount of my life at this home of estonians with welcome arms i would love to come back and enjoy more with them again, timmi

  • Siiri Lind

    Actually, this cover photo was taken by me, not Liisa-Mai Karuks. The photo in question was shot during the Eesti Pärimuspäev (Estonian Heritage Day) in Lakewood, NJ, on May 4th, 2013. :-)

    • Andres Simonson

      My apologies on the mix-up, Siiri. I didn’t complete my due diligence before grabbing it from Facebook – completely my fault. The citation is now correct. By the way, great photo! Thanks.

  • http://www.Facebook.com/oddhugoband Rein Kutsar

    Hi there,

    It sounds like a great Place. I’m manager of one spectacular Estonian band called ODD HUGO.
    https://www.facebook.com/oddhugoband

    We’re planning some show’s in States around 2015. It would be super to do one show there as well – here’s our music: Here’s few live session videos:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urGdBhBtDPw – Three Bullets
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2tYl6h5En0 – Kissing in the Falling Rain
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9B0RPgY0zTk – Mumblewalk

    or stream our album
    https://play.spotify.com/album/7nGRAnAAYbPiqqbUZU6MQO
    http://www.deezer.com/en/album/6809277

    cheers,

  • Peeter

    I have not been to this Eesti Maja many times, but I do know that most baby boomers went there many times in our youth and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves. I do recall my sister Anita telling me an interesting story about the time that at the only local Hotel (motel?) in Lakewood, banned Estonians because someone had (Ahem)
    poo-poo’ed in their pool ! Can anyone verify this as fact or legend ?

    • jutaris

      I can verify that this true…the guy responsible was Toomas “The Horn” Hannus, now sadly deceased.

      • Peeter

        Tanan Vaga, I guess this was the inspiration to the “Baby Ruth” scene with Bill Murray in Caddyshack !
        Boy, some enterpreneurs and business owners have no appreciation of a reliable flow of money spent at their business.

  • Allan

    Please, please no, no, no to ODD HUGO! Just another group of no-hopers trying to make a break in the US. Please keep hem away from our beloved Eesti Center!