Beebi Boomers — the children of fate

Estonian-American children at Lakewood, New Jersey

In the war-torn Estonia of 1944, two families from disparate parts of the country make a most difficult decision. With a future of despair advancing rapidly from the east on tank treads and the wings of well-armed bombers, unbeknownst to the other, both families decide to flee for the prospects of the unknown. They make a trade. Life, or quite possibly death, under the invading Soviets for a chance at nomadic normalcy under the premise of returning at some future date. The die has been cast. The families, meagre belongings in tow, are now political refugees on the run.

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Separately, but with a shared destiny in front of them, the two families find security and shelter in American and British-controlled displaced persons’ camps in Germany as the Second World War winds down. Separately, but with an intertwined future to be, they later make the long journey across the Atlantic Ocean for the shores of the United States. Separately, but with a connected fate emerging, they find housing in the New York and Philadelphia metropolitan areas and transform the structures into homes. Separately, but soon to meet even if they don’t know it yet, the two families assimilate while holding their ancestries close to their hearts.

Later still, in 1960, the young children fleeing with their divergent families two decades ago are now adults — a young man and a young woman. In an Estonian enclave in Lakewood, New Jersey, at last, they meet. Shyly at first, they chat. Stories are exchanged about the journey they hold in common and the memories of their places of birth. Comfortable with each other, and with butterflies in their bellies, they go on a first date. A subsequent phone call leads to another. Soon, they fall in love. They marry. They procreate. A new family is born…

Imagine owing your very existence to one of the 20th centrury’s greatest atrocities. Well, as briefly summarised above, that’s me. Not just me though — there are countless other ironically fortunate souls that fill out this story. We are the Beebi Boomers — the children born to native Estonian political refugees that fled the Soviet invasion and the illegal occupation of their fatherland.

Most reading this are familiar with the Baby Boomers. They are the post-World War II population cohort that sprang from the returning infantrymen and service people. In the United States, Canada, and parts of Europe, the Baby Boomers are the generation born from roughly 1946 through 1964. They compose a large population segment of their respective countries. But substitute the English spelling of the word “baby” for the Estonian translation “beebi”, add a decade or so to the birth years, and you’ll have a unique subset and extension of the Baby Boomer populace — Beebi Boomers.

These Beebi Boomers are natural born citizens of the United States, Canada, Sweden, Australia, and dozens of other countries around the globe. Their birth certificates are as varied as are their lots in life. And yet, they share a commonality of being. For you see, if the Soviets had never invaded, their parents would have never fleed Estonia as small children. If they had never fleed, maybe their father had stayed in Elva and their mother in Tallinn — as probably would have been the case with my parents. If those families had never left, the Beebi Boomer’s parents would have never caught each other’s eye at a location thousands of miles from a land where they most likely would never have met.

I am a Beebi Boomer. My brother is a Beebi Boomer. My friends from Suvekodu Laager (a summer camp) in Long Island, New York, are Beebi Boomers. I have extended family in the form of Beebi Boomers in Canada. I see Beebi Boomers often at the Estonian-American clubhouses in Lakewood, New Jersey, and in New York City. I keep in touch with them on social media. I read about Beebi Boomers in publications such as the one you are reading right now.

An Estonian-Australian teacher in Melbourne, she is a Beebi Boomer. An Estonian-Swede, a musician born to parents from Pärnu and Tartu, he is a Beebi Boomer. A natural born German tech consultant, who spoke Estonian at home and now uses those same language skills to do business in Tallinn, he is a Beebi Boomer.

In a strange twist of fate, we owe our very existence to the same forces that decimated many of our extended families. When I look back on the Soviet war crimes, it’s a tough pill to swallow. I am here. But many were slaughtered to set my existence in motion. Still, none of us can shape our ancestries. We are all functions of an infinite amount of historical twists and turns. Call it what you will — chance, destiny, or a divine plan — the individual has no control.

So, we owe it to our ancestors to tell our stories. We owe it to our forefathers and foremothers to keep the Estonian traditions and language alive. We owe it to those that perished to lead fruitful lives, but to never forget the means to our end.

But maybe most importantly, we owe it to ourselves to contemplate our path to existence while enjoying our lots in life as hyphenated Estonians.

We are the Beebi Boomers.

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Cover photo: Estonian-American children at Lakewood, New Jersey (Liisa-Mai Karuks)

Second photo: VisitEstonia (Sven Zacek)

About the author: Andres Simonson

Andres is first generation American of Estonian descent. An enthusiastic Estophile, he is an environmental consultant holding a Bachelor's degree in Environmental Science and a Masters of City and Regional Planning, concentrating in environmental planning. He resides in Red Bank, New Jersey with his loving wife and three darling daughters.

  • Eva

    I am one too… and proud of it. (Estonian/Swedish, now living in Canada) Tracing back has been most interesting. Love Estonia!

  • Tiina

    My mother is from Tartu, my father from Saaremaa. They never would have met except in the US. As far back as we know I’m a pure-bred Esto. Of course I married a nice American boy of German and Danish decent.. Somehow I just didn’t meet the love of my life at Suvelaager – either Middle Island or Lakewood. We’re in Basking Ridge NJ.

  • Mart

    What percent of beebi boomers do you think stayed in the fold and what percent left for good? It would be very interesting to hear a range of exeriences of this unique historical generation. Recalling many peers of your age who are no longer to be seen, experiences not quite as sunny as yours probably occurred. But glad the way it worked out for you.